Promise Ring? Engagement Ring? or Earrings?
Vacations and getaways are popular times for people to declare their love for one another. It's a time where some have decided to be monogamous and want to make their relationships official, others decide if they want to take their official relationship to the next level. In either case, people make that special "time away from home" extra special by taking a leap to make their relationship more serious. So when do you decide which direction to leap in? Promise ring? Engagement ring? or Earrings?
I'm no marriage counselor, so I can't give any actual advice, but as a woman who has taken the leap, I will share my opinion. You are free to disagree.
First, be sure you and your mate are on the same page. You're already on vacation, so you've agreed to spend some quality time together. Now, you need to evaluate what stage your relationship is in.
Some things to consider:
- Their relationship with God or a higher power
- If they are honest
- If they communicate well
- Their loyalty
- Do they respect you and more importantly do they respect themselves?
These are just a few things to contemplate before deciding on which direction you should leap in. So how do you know for sure?
If you have been dating and there are children involved, most of these concerns should have already been addressed. No one is perfect and every couple is not ready to take the big leap into marriage, but most couples know what direction they want to go in and they make plans to reach that goal. For those couples, a promise ring may be the best route. You are in love, but perhaps there are more important things on your agenda such as creating a strong financial foundation or maybe you are transitioning from an open to a monogamous relationship. Regardless the reason, you have decided you want to eventually spend the rest of your life with this special person and you want to promise them your heart is in the right place and you are not wasting their time.
You've been dating, you live together (or spend so much time together that you might as well) or have children together, you've both been monogamous for quite some time and know without a doubt you don't want to spend another day with anyone other than your mate. You are more than likely ready for the engagement ring. You're in love and have gone through some ups and downs and have learned to find a balance. It's time to mix the families and get used to the big united family gatherings that include your family whispering to other members, "Who made this potato salad?" lol.
Okay, say you've been dating, but you are friends with benefits. You like being fwb and you don't want to get serious. You enjoy spending time with this person, but you have other friends that you spend time with as well. You are on vacation with this person so again, there is something special about this one person, but it's not special enough for either of you to be monogamous. Or maybe you are, but just not ready for such a big commitment. You are enjoying the best of both worlds and feel no need to add or take away from it. Earrings are probably the best for you. You aren't in love, you are in strong like and you are just a friend. Anything more important would give the wrong idea.
So I share all of this to remind you to be on the same page as your mate. It's very common for women to be in a long term relationship, receive a small box on a holiday, then get excited thinking they deserve or is getting surprised with a ring, only to get a pair of earrings instead. The next time you need to get a piece of jewelry for your mate, Gabriel & Co has tons of options for you to choose from. Click on the photo above!